Oh how I wish everyday was a perfect day… well behaved children make a peaceful home and makes mommy’s “job” very easy and mommy very happy.

I had planned a nice day at the park, playing at the playground, riding the train, and a picnic lunch. All ruined. My 4 year old woke up on the wrong side of the bed obstinate, and unruly, even dangling this “perfect plan” over his head could not coerce him to eat nicely at the table, bring his dishes to the sink and brush his teeth this morning..things he’s supposed to do.

So I am left at home dealing with an unruly child, first thing in the morning,  who will probably off and on start crying throughout the day because he wants to go to the park…upon remembering my enticing offer.

I cannot tell you how many times over the past 2 years I’ve had to drag my son out of a public place, crying his head off, all because he wouldn’t listen….so embarassing! But I am not one to make empty threats. Where would that leave my son if he didn’t learn to respect the rules and obey his parents….would I end up with an ungrateful and demanding pre-teen? Or will he be one because I lay down the law? Only time will tell.

I have been on the other side, with no kids, hearing a child cry and its mother would just ignore or yell or punish the child in public. Back then I admit to sympathizing with that child….but now I know.

I am the eldest of 4 girls, each a year a part I might add, so my mom had to be strict. I cannot imagine what her life must have been like. Much less can I imagine being pregnant for 4 years. But I do remember the punishments…the spankings, the groundings, demerits, standing in the corner….and now I know it was not only for our own good but for her sanity as well.

So I will continue, despite how it may look to others, to be strong in my values and tough on my kids when teaching them right from wrong and to respect others, so they can learn to be responsible young and well behaved pre-teens. But I will also show how much we love them and how fun the world can be…..as long as they respect the rules!

It’s a beautiful day outside, blue skies as far as the eye can see, and the air is crisp and cool….while I’m stuck at home, sharing punishment with my son..ugghh.  For those like me, hang tough!